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Not much of a Holiday

Mr. Andrew Coslett
Chief Executive Officer
InterContinental Hotels Group PLC
Broadwater Park
Denham
Buckinghamshire UB9 5HR
United Kingdom

Dear Mr. Coslett:

On Friday, 22 May 2009, my uncle passed away unexpectedly. As you might expect, many of my family members traveled to his funeral, in Newark, NJ.

My cousin and I both decided to stay overnight nearby, since we would have to drive in excess of an hour to go home between the wake and the funeral. We selected the Holiday Inn Newark International Airport, a mere 1.4 miles from my aunt’s home, since my cousin and his wife had stayed there previously.

I booked two rooms, described online and in the email confirmation (copy enclosed) as “1 KING BED W SOFABED NONSMOKING,” at a rate of $59 plus tax each, for the night of 26 May 2009.

On 26 May 2009, my cousin called and spoke with the front desk staff to confirm our rooms, since we knew we would be checking in rather late. In fact, we ended up checking in after 11 PM, and that’s when the problems began.

We were given adjoining rooms, which was wonderful! Unfortunately, they were both configured with two double beds, which don’t accommodate my cousin and his wife well, since they are both quite tall. Additionally, they are not what I reserved, and not what Holiday Inn confirmed.

I spoke with Freddie at the front desk, who told me there was nothing he could or would do. I asked to speak with the manager, and he told me he wasn’t available but that he would have him call me when he came back. When I pressed the issue, he told me if I had a problem, I should just deal with Holiday Inn’s corporate offices.

On my way back to my room, I encountered another hotel employee. I asked him if he was the manager, and he told me he was not, but offered to call him for me. He immediately called him on his mobile phone, and asked me to wait at the front desk for him.

I waited about ten minutes for Shakespeare, the manager on duty. (He later shared that he’d been in the bathroom, which was really more information than I needed. But I digress.) He told me that there were no king bed rooms available because of the holiday weekend, despite the fact that I had reserved and confirmed two of them. He finally offered to discount the rate by $5 per room, or to move me to the Crowne Plaza Hotel for the same rate. Due to the late hour (it was nearly midnight by this time), I declined to move at that time, since we needed to check out by 7:30 AM in order to arrive on time for the funeral. Shakespeare did not discount the room rate or make any further accommodation for my inconvenience.

Moreover, upon checking out, we discovered that we had been charged an additional $30 plus tax for overnight parking; this fee was not disclosed at any time during the reservation or check-in processes. The front desk “validated” the parking tickets, which would lead me to believe that the parking would be free or at least reduced in cost.

I feel that InterContinental Hotels Group and Holiday Inn have failed to meet two of their own “promises” and guarantees. Specifically:

Holiday Inn Hospitality Promise
Making your stay a complete success is our goal. Just let our Manager on Duty or front desk staff know if any part of your stay isn’t satisfactory. We promise to make it right or you won’t pay for that part of your stay.

Based on your Hospitality Promise, because I wasn’t satisfied with the room I was given, I should not have had to pay for it.

Online Reservation Guarantee
By securing your online reservation with a credit card, you are eligible for our Reservations Guarantee. If your reservation cannot be honored, the host hotel will provide a room at, and transportation to, another convenient and comparable hotel, and pay for telephone calls to notify family of the lodging change. The host hotel will also pay the full cost of the first night’s lodging rate, plus tax. Any advance deposit will be refunded.

Moreover, because I booked my reservation online and secured it with a credit card, I believe I am eligible for the provisions of the Online Reservation Guarantee. Shakespeare did not offer to transport me and my family at no cost, and did not offer to pay the full cost of the lodging at the Crowne Plaza. He should have done that, and his failure to do so must be remedied by InterContinental Hotels Group PLC.

My cousin paid the final bill with his credit card. Please contact me at your earliest convenience to arrange for the full reimbursement of our bill, or we will pursue a chargeback and file complaints with the appropriate government agencies.

Done

My grandmother passed away tonight.

I feel extraordinarily fortunate that I saw her on Monday, and that she was having a good day when I was there.

I feel extraordinarily fortunate that she died at home, on her terms.

And I feel horrible for being in Austin, TX, 2000 miles away, and not being able to do anything to help.

The beginning of the end

My grandmother has decided to discontinue her treatment and has entered hospice care. The treatment was, in many ways, worse than the disease itself: robbing her of any quality of life and leaving her miserable. Her prognosis is not good, and the doctor gives her less than six months to live.

As much as this knowledge hurts me, I support her decision. It’s the kind of courage and strength I would expect from her and my grandfather.

greg

i’m sure a lot of you know our friends michelle and greg. paul and michelle went to high school together, and remained good friends throughout college and thereafter. michelle started dating greg about three years ago, and paul and i loved him from the first day we met him. michelle couldn’t have found a sweeter, more caring man to share her life.

they moved in together over a year ago, and we visited them in their gorgeous south end (boston) apartment in april 2005. it was just a year ago, in fact, that we were there, on patriot’s day 2005 for the boston marathon. paul and i enjoyed every minute we spent with them, and they were well liked by all of our friends. they attended our wine festival party every summer, even as we managed to miss several christmas parties for various other commitments.

greg died yesterday. it was an accident, sudden and unexpected. i’m in shock, which sounds kind of trite. but honestly, i’m not sure how else to feel. he’s my age, and that’s scary in a horribly selfish and narcissistic way. he and michelle were, in my mind, married, and so that scares me too in a selfish way. i can’t help thinking how i would feel right now, without paul. there just aren’t words to describe that kind of loss, that kind of unplanned, tragic loss.

i’ve told a few people about greg today: friends, people at work since i’ll be out a couple of days this week. no one knows what to say, and no one can. there isn’t anything to be said, and there is everything to be felt. keep michelle in your thoughts, and in your prayers if you say them. she needs our unwavering love and support right now, and we all need time to heal.

roller coasters

it’s been something of a roller coaster week for me.

it started really well last friday night, with a trip to china rose in rhinecliff for jimmy’s birthday dinner. he’s a trim and fabulous 28! we had yummy food and good times with jimmy, nick shannon from the hospital, peter, paul and me.

this was followed up by good times at griff’s (see my pictures!). we got home very late and got up very early the next morning to let brad the pig man get started cooking for peter’s pig roast. this was a great day too, with good food, good drinks, good friends and great weather. it’s been a six month adventure to make this pig roast a reality but it actually happened and it was flawless. (the highlight of my day may have been to meet brown… see my pictures!)

on sunday, it rained. my mom called to let me know that my aunt barbara, who has been suffering from lung cancer for several years now, lost her battle. i feel the loss acutely, because i think she was one of the classiest ladies i’ve ever known. moreover, when i lost my grandmother earlier this year, aunt barbara said all the right things and told all the great stories she knew of nana, and it helped a lot. paul and i will be attending her viewing tomorrow night and the funeral on friday morning, and i’m just not sure i’m ready to deal with the maudlin grief of my entire family. my therapist reminded me on monday (thanks joe!) that it’s okay for me to express my grief in my own way… but it’s still hard when you have the bevy of catholic hardliners surrounding the there-is-no-afterlife fag, you know?

when it rains, it pours. literally. the remnants of hurricane katrina arrive in new york this afternoon, and i’m worried about getting some water in the basement. isn’t that tragic? countless people have lost their lives, homes, perhaps everything … and i’m worried about water in the basement because of the two inches of rain that are predicted for this area.

and since i’m feeling particularly sensitive this week, i completely lost it yesterday when one of my customers escalated me to my management. instead of just asking me a question, she went ’round behind my back to my manager. ewww! it’s not as if i got in trouble, but it renewed my fervent wish for a new job. i’d love to write more evil things, but people lose their jobs for blogging about work, and i’m not about to be one of them. (ask me for details if you’re so interested!) anyway, thank goodness for the gym. after 40 minutes on the elliptical (working my glutes, thank you very much!) i felt renewed.

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